How much power do we really have to go and ‘make’ it happen?
I had this thought on a loop this morning and I couldn’t understand why I was disagreeing with it. Hustle! Do it first and then ask for permission. Act, act, act.
But I let it roll around in my head for a while until my resistance settled on one word.
We cannot ‘make’ anything happen anymore than we can force the sun to rise before it is ready.
You can make toast, yes. But you can’t make another person love you, no matter how many breakfasts in bed you offer them.
You can practice your keynote until you can mime the words in your sleep. But you can’t make your audience give you a standing ovation.
You can teach a child to walk. But directing them where you want them to go…well, good luck.
But while we can’t ever ‘make’ something happen, we can optimize the environment.
You could lead every day with clear and specific intentions. You could approach every interaction with an expectation of brilliance. You can prepare yourself, educate yourself, believe in yourself, and then step out in front of a terrifying audience with the trust that you and they are in it together and what will be created will be created together.
Your power is in being Cooperatively Prepared.
Not in ‘making’ things happen, but in the feeling of empowerment that comes from knowing you are ready and connected.
Do you feel this?
We are all vibrating strings in a Universal Orchestra, and when you vibrate, the world sings too. In live performance you are literally dancing with the audience’s responses to you, and your presence gets mashed up with theirs in an epic echo chamber of energy. It doesn’t matter if there are 1,000 people in the room or 2.
You have to do the preparation. And then you simply must let it go and get connected.
You ARE your words, you ARE your voice, you ARE your audience, you ARE the stage, you are one with the air that swirls between your lips and the lips of your listener. You are part of a never-ending kiss between you and everything you can see, hear, touch, feel, smell or intuit.
Suddenly you’re not out there to make anything happen or bend the world to your favour. You are there to prepare, create, collaborate. To come together with others to make something spectacular, whether it’s between you and the Universe, you and your audience or a shared smile between you and someone you adore.
And when you get this, it’s impossible to make anything happen because you already are.